Ever felt like you’re being totally ignored at a party or event? You swear the person knows you are right next to them but simply doesn’t want to acknowledge you. If so, you’re not alone! Even celebrities like actress Ester Expósito and singer Paris Jackson go through these awkward moments. Let’s dive into what happened at the Desigual Fashion Show in Spain and get some practical tips on handling these situations with grace and style.

What Happened?

Bueno, Paris, looking spectacular, rocking her boho-chic black outfit, is sitting in the front row. Right next to her is our favorite Spanish star, Ester Expósito, looking fabulous in a multicolored strapless dress. Despite being seated together and initially smiling for the cameras, Ester’s attempts to chat with Paris seemed to hit a wall. Ouch, right? This moment quickly blew up on social media, with fans buzzing about the seemingly cold shoulder.

How is it that despite such a glamorous setting, the interaction between these two stars highlighted a common social challenge—feeling ignored? Well, stars, they are just like us! Here’s how you can recognize when you are being ignored and manage the awkward situation:

Recognizing When You’re Being Ignored

Here’s the thing, ladies. We’ve all been there, and it’s no fun. So, how do you know when someone’s not that into talking to you?

• Body Language: Are they avoiding eye contact, turning away, or engaging more with others? Yep, you might be getting ignored.

• Short Answers: If you’re getting one-word replies or no response at all, it’s a sign.

• Distracted Actions: Are they fiddling with their phone or focusing on others? They might not be excited about the conversation.

Breaking the Ice

Making the first move to connect with someone new isn’t always a breeze. It takes a bit of self-awareness and knowing some social hacks to keep things cool and effortless. Raele Altano, Communication Coach, offers her top tips for breaking the ice and keeping the vibes positive:

“Start by asking questions about the event or giving a genuine compliment. Something simple like, ‘I love your dress, where did you get it?’ can work wonders”, she explains. If the person next to you isn’t engaging, you can also bring someone else into the conversation. The expert explains that you can use HEFE (Hobbies, Entertainment, Food, Environment) or FORD (Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams) topics to keep the chat flowing and inclusive.

And what about if you are the one who doesn’t want to engage with another person? “If you know the person and there are past issues, say hello and be polite. Maintain your composure and let them take the lead in starting any further conversation”, Altano advises. “If you know someone you have issues with who will be at the event, ask the host if you can be seated elsewhere. Keep your request simple and drama-free to avoid any additional awkwardness”, adds the Coach.

Whatever you do, she recommends not letting one person’s lack of engagement ruin your mood. There are plenty of other people who would love to chat with you. So, keep your energy up and stay confident!

Keeping It Cool

However, handling the situation can be uncomfortable and frustrating. So, let’s hear Mason Farmani, Intuitive Personal and Corporate Life Coach’s top tips on how to deal with rejection:

• Give Them Space: Sometimes, people need a moment to themselves. If they’re not responsive, they might be preoccupied with their thoughts or emotions. Give them some space, and try not to take it personally.

• Respect Their Boundaries: Respect their choice not to engage with you now. Pushing for attention might only exacerbate the situation.

• Check Your Own Behavior: Reflect on your recent interactions with them. Is there anything you might have said or done that could have upset or offended them? If so, consider apologizing or clarifying your intentions.

• Initiate a Conversation: If you feel comfortable, try initiating a conversation in a non-confrontational manner. Start with a simple greeting or comment about something neutral, like the weather or a shared interest.

• Be Patient: Understand that everyone has their own reasons for behaving the way they do. They may need time to open up or feel comfortable around you again.

• Seek Closure (If Necessary): If the ignoring behavior persists and it’s affecting your relationship or interactions, consider having a calm and respectful conversation to address the issue. Approach the topic gently and express your feelings without placing blame.

• Focus on Yourself: If attempts to engage with them continue to be unsuccessful, focus on your own well-being and other relationships. Surround yourself with supportive friends and activities that bring you joy.

• Let It Go: Sometimes, despite our best efforts, people may choose not to engage with us for reasons beyond our control. In these cases, it’s important to accept the situation and let it go. Holding onto resentment or frustration will only weigh you down.

Wrapping It Up with a Smile

Psychotherapist Brianna Paruolo, LCMHC, reminds us, “If someone ignores you, the most important thing to recognize is that it has nothing to do with you! I know admitting that isn’t as cut and dry as it sounds, but the truth is the way someone treats you is a direct reflection of themselves. Your feelings are valid, but don’t take it personally!” Most importantly, “Remember what you bring to the table! There are people who will absolutely value what you have to offer and celebrate who you are”, she adds.

So next time you find yourself in an Ester Expósito moment, remember these tips. You’re fabulous, and there are plenty of people who will appreciate you just as you are. Keep your head high, stay positive, and focus on the good vibes. Because, at the end of the day, you deserve to be surrounded by people who value and celebrate you!